I have some thoughts today about gifts....
Someone I know recently gave someone else a very large/expensive Christmas gift. As I watched the events unfold....it became very clear that this gift came with strings attached. I just feel like when you give a gift---you are giving it away. The receiver should be able to do whatever he or she wants with the gift. He or she should graciously accept the gift if they want it (in this case, it was very graciously received), but throughout the day---the gift giver was very adament about letting everyone know that he/she paid for it, and therefore he/she should have some say in how things went/were done.
It just got ugly. It made it so that others could not even completely enjoy this gift because they had to not step on the toes of the gift giver.
I know I'm being completely vague....sorry.
Anyway....this whole strings attached has been a problem for years. It makes you sometimes not accept help or gifts from this person because then he/she feels like they have a say in your life or how you use the gift.
I say, give a gift & let go.
If you can't give a gift away completely, then you shouldn't give that gift.
Does that make sense????
You wouldn't give someone a camera & tell them what they can photograph. Ya know???