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Monday, April 07, 2008

Stop.

If one more person asks me if I am pregnant.....I am probably going to lose my cool.

And, "Why are you wearing that shirt? Are you trying to hide a pregnant belly?"

What I want to say: "How the FUCK is that any of YOUR business?"

The answer is "No", I am not pregnant.
And No, I don't think it would be the perfect time for me to be pregnant...
But, in light of everything that is going on in my family that affects our future fertility---I don't want to have to say 500 times a week that I am not pregnant.

And, there is more to that really....
In all that has been going on with Hubby & his man bits....I'm a bit scared about getting pregnant again.
After losing Masyn, I'm a bit scared about getting pregnant again.

This issue just crawls all over me on many levels.
First of all, it makes me feel fat. Yes, I've put on about 5 pounds recently. I'm not very tall, so on me---5 pounds must really show if everyone around me asks if I'm pregnant.

I don't know. I'm just pissy about this right now. ...and I have been for a couple of weeks now.

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18 Comments:

At 8:41 AM , Blogger Pregnantly Plump said...

I'm sorry. I'm sure those people are trying to be nice or just make conversation, and have no idea how rude their questions can be.
I'm so sorry.

 
At 8:48 AM , Blogger Zephra said...

Maybe you need a sign? Never never ask a woman if she is pregnant unless you see a head crowning.

I'm sorry Laine. People are so tactless sometimes.

 
At 9:40 AM , Blogger zirelda said...

Can I blame you? No.

Whenever I gain weight I look pregnant and it pisses me off when people ask me if I am pregnant. My answer "No, I'm just fat ok?" shuts em up quick.

 
At 9:57 AM , Blogger Laura said...

sorry to hear you are going through this...our bodies handle stress in different ways...people sure can be insensitive at times.

Sending you lots of bloggy-love.

 
At 12:00 PM , Blogger Kate said...

Oh no, they didn't! It's always rude to ask if a woman is pregnant, but in this case I'm sure it's especially painful for you.

And based on the sprinkler pictures, you look great!

 
At 12:09 PM , Blogger Judy said...

Who in their right mind would EVER ask a girl if she's preggers? No common sense whatsoever!

When I saw the sprinkler pics, my first thought was, DANG - she's so YOUNG! (and I am so OLD) And fit! And energized!

 
At 1:36 PM , Blogger Sarah said...

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At 1:39 PM , Blogger Sarah said...

Sorry- posted this comment earlier but had to modify it.

Here is my strategy for wearing the cute tops that have some "room" in them. I don't usually wear them to work, instead I wear them when we go out to dinner, etc so that I can point to my beer or wine when someone asks that question. Although most of the time, just having the drink sitting there keeps them from asking!

It seems that some folks forget to filter their thoughts. Good thing you have the blog to vent on!

 
At 1:41 PM , Blogger Becky said...

I get it all the time. I'm always acting pregnant, I guess.

Sorry, dude. I would never ask that.

 
At 3:10 PM , Blogger Elaine said...

I feel ya. Whenever I'm with my family and I say I'm hot, nauseated, dizzy, ANYTHING, it's "are you pregnant?"

I've also been asked randomly and it really does hurt my feelings, as much as i deny it. I am not fat!! I hope!

Sorry :)

 
At 4:57 PM , Blogger Beth said...

I have never in my life asked someone if they were pregnant. If they are obviously pregnant (huge...) you don't have to ask. In any other situation, the person will tell you if they want you to know!
You have every right to be upset. Wish I could think of a great retort for you to come back with.

 
At 7:51 PM , Blogger Chas said...

This disturbs me. I can't imagine ever asking anyone that question, especially if it wasn't obvious. I'm so sorry.

 
At 6:44 AM , Blogger ~love said...

i feel ya, girl. i get asked about once a week. it's so ridiculous.

we should all teach everyone we know to NEVER ask. even if someone is "obviously" pregnant, they could've either just had the baby or most tragically lost the baby. unreal these people are.

for the record, you're gorgeous. =)

 
At 7:03 AM , Blogger Steph said...

I'm sorry, that has to be very frustrating and get very old. People just don't think before they speak some times.

 
At 8:40 PM , Blogger Mighty Morphin' Mama said...

Ack, I hate that! I am so sorry that you are hurting because of it too. Like you need to be reminded in this way every 5 seconds.

 
At 9:18 PM , Blogger ~melinda~ said...

i am feeling large and not in charge this week so i get how you feel. none of my jeans fit. not even the fat jeans.

time to get up off my arse and jiggle off some of the carbs i have consumed this week. oh, how i detest exercise. i am a loser!! :) hang in there.....

 
At 8:13 AM , Blogger Misguided Mommy said...

so, maybe this is just an assumption, but with all the stuff going on with your hubbies man parts, wouldn't sex be kind of hard? making being pregnant kind of hard

 
At 1:02 PM , Blogger Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

Some people are just rude and thoughtless. I can see I'm going to have to go back through your archives to figure out exactly what's going on here!

 

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