Just Say No to Dora....
So, I've tried to be one of those moms who doesn't care if her son plays with dolls and high heels and pink baby doll strollers....I just don't care. It doesn't bother me. Whatever.
But today....today, I had to draw the line, and it broke my heart to do so.
....and now, of course, I'm second guessing myself. Maybe I should have just given in....
Setting: WalMart, in the shoe aisle.
I just wanted to breeze through & pick up some cheapie sandals or flip flop type shoes that are easy to slip on & off for Gage. I just wanted a little pair to keep by the back door, so that when we go to play outside, it's so easy to just grab 'em & go.
And Gage fell in love on the shoe aisle. There she was, with her cute dark bob hairstyle....teasing him with her eyes...that "come here & play with me" look.... That's right. It was Dora. Smack-dab on the side of the tennis shoe. Not only did he want them, he told me, "I just neeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeed 'em."
These shoes....they weren't gender neutral by any means. They weren't all white w/ Dora on the side. Those, I would have gladly purchased. These had pink all over them....girly embroidery or stitching. They were just tooooooo girly.
I drew the line. I said what I didn't expect to say so soon, "No, Those are for girls."
I said it.
I felt bad.
I tried to distract him by looking for Diego shoes. No luck.
I tried to get him interested in some fireman shoes. They were black & looked like they were covered in flames. There was a firetruck on the side, and when you step, the lights on the firetruck light up. They were.....busy. Not something I would otherwise consider buying....but, desperate times call for desperate measures, right?
I suggested those shoes, and Gage said, "No! They make my feet burn!" I just laughed, and we moved on. We ended up getting some Spider Man slip on shoes, that I decided to buy just a size bigger than his normal size so they'd fit longer (stupid, stupid me....what was I thinking?????).
And, the way home....
Gage: "I just neeeeeeeeeed her."
Gage: "Dora. I neeeeeeed her."
....am I an awful mom? Should I TRULY put the gender stuff aside & let him just have the shoes? Clearly, I thought I was the mom who wouldn't care---who would let my kids do whatever w/ disregard to stereotypical gender designations....but, in the moment---my actions are complete opposite of the way I viewed myself....