I am so tired of people asking me, "So when are you guys going to try for Number Two?" As in---baby #2.
What do I say to that?
What I want to say, "We had a number two. We lost 'number 2'. but, thanks for asking."
...and then, just the other day, I got that question from someone who KNEW that we were pregnant & lost Masyn. She's a nurse that I work with. I guess she just forgot. Because....before I had barely finished my "blowing off your question" response, she was looking panicked & walking away!
So...the other day, I get the question...
Me: "Oh, I don't know...." (picture me, still walking, not stopping to talk.)
The other person: "Well, we're trying again!"
Me: "Good luck with that" (yelling back, b/c I was about 15 feet down the hall by now!)
I sounded like a total b*tch. I know. But you know what----I don't want to talk about it with this person. Maybe some others around at the time clued him in. As I was walking by the nurse's station, they had that "Oh My God, I can't believe he just asked that" look.
Everyone shouldn't have to live on eggshells around me....and certainly someone who didn't know what we've been through... But, I still don't want to deal with that question.
So...what do I say?
"We lost a baby, so mind your own business. The next time we get pregnant we probably won't even tell anyone until we're like 6 months along...so, even if I'm pregnant RIGHT NOW I'm not going to tell you. Mind your own f*cking business. I wish you rainbows & sunshine---good luck with TTC again, but keep your nose out of our sh*t."
That sounds...um, harsh, and sadly, it's how I feel about it with people that I don't feel particularly close to.
What I want to tell this guy: if I'm not asking about your testicles, then don't ask about my uterus &/o its inhabitants. Thanks.