Advice for my son....
Things I dont want to forget to tell him when he's OLDER...
* When you are with a girl, dont check out other girls. We notice stuff like that. Even when you are driving--we know if you are checking out a girl in a nearby car.
* When you are with a girl, treat her as if she is the most perfect, most beautiful, most captivating person on the planet. Give her your undivided attention.
* If another cute girl walks by, dont check her out. There will be plenty of time to check out other women when your date/girlfriend/fiance/wife is not right there with you.
* Verbally reinforce how attractive you think she is. This is tricky---you've got to mix it up with the words. If you constantly say, "you look nice", or "you look pretty", it will become routine for you to say, and over time the compliments, while well-intentioned, may not seem to hold as much value. Throw in words like, "beautiful", "sexy", "hot". Women want to feel sexy, and feel like they look sexy. (Do not use this advice until you're OLDER!)
* Continue to date her. Even when you're "old & married"...continue to take the time out of your schedule to take your wife on dates. And plan them yourself. Put effort into it. To a woman, when you do this, it makes her feel special, appreciated, loved, etc.
* Flaunt her. Treat her like a trophy that you want to show off to the world.
* When people say nice things about her when she is not present, make sure the messages get back to her....(I.E. if your coworkers say, "oh, your wife seems so sweet..."--tell her. It will make her feel good.)
* No matter what the circumstance, do NOT EVER use the phrase "suffer through it" in the same conversation about going on a date with your date/girlfriend/fiance/wife. Just take my word on this one---it will not go over well. Period. I dont care if she's trying to drag you to the ballet---dont you dare say that you'll just "suffer through it".
* Girls like surprises. Even when they say that they dont---they do. Random little gifts. Random acts of kindness...like washing her car for her. Or bringing home flowers for no reason, other than the fact that you wanted to see her smile when you walked through the door.
* The power of touch...well, touch is important. Sitting on the couch next to each other, holding hands, snuggling, hugging, kissing...all of those things need to continue throughout a relationship, not just in the beginning when things are new & exciting...
* In the bedroom--it's not all about you. Remember that.
* Be spontaneous. Initiate things...(inside & outside the bedroom...)
* With regard to a hairstyle change, or makeup change, or any type of physical appearance change, girls dont ever want to hear, "What did you do?" ...so unless you are talking about an injury...dont say, "what did you DO??"