tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post5021806067294683126..comments2023-12-26T19:12:44.777-08:00Comments on Life Is Just So Daily: Big Announcement........Lainey-Paneyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07722187515774744428noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post-69414611927080370592008-07-22T17:09:00.000-07:002008-07-22T17:09:00.000-07:00I can't imagine how you must feel. It's got to be ...I can't imagine how you must feel. It's got to be a really odd situation. Odd's not the right word. I think your feelings are perfectly justified. I also hope that she's nice enough and that they never kiss in front of you. Maybe it'll be a quick Justice of the Peace thing with just the two of them.Pregnantly Plumphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16520084082888706200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post-6341071400718232422008-07-22T13:59:00.000-07:002008-07-22T13:59:00.000-07:00Ummm, yuck! Not for your dad, but just the situat...Ummm, yuck! Not for your dad, but just the situation in general. And BFs? I'm thinking no.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01029244567686979589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post-39679536718061530562008-07-22T08:06:00.000-07:002008-07-22T08:06:00.000-07:00Wow, I know I don't know much about you, but I wan...Wow, I know I don't know much about you, but I wanted to send you support. I think you have every right to feel the way that you do..I know I would. I hope everything works out for the best and it turns out to be a good thing rather than a weird/bad thing.Kayceehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04367256063494074586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post-59163110065370248372008-07-22T06:48:00.000-07:002008-07-22T06:48:00.000-07:00Oh My God...I can only imagine how hard this is fo...Oh My God...I can only imagine how hard this is for you. I don't think there is an easy way to deal with any of this. I would feel exactly the same about her age, the need for a pre-nup and bottom line the medical decisions. I think the last one is the one that troubles me the most. Talk to your dad about your concerns. He can give you power of attorney for something like that. If she is in love with your dad this will not phase her. She has to understands that.Just be direct with her when you meet her. Your the daughter and she has to respect you. If anyone should feel uncomfortable in the meeting it should be her not you...it's your dad and you have every right to look out for him. Good Luck! xoxoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post-53381797477559507662008-07-21T20:02:00.000-07:002008-07-21T20:02:00.000-07:00Ugh. That sounds like a bad situation and you're ...Ugh. That sounds like a bad situation and you're doing a good job of dealing with it.<BR/><BR/>I'm agreeing that maybe selling the "grandma" angle might shake some sense into this girl. ;)Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15456733077542868694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post-44280752033234133252008-07-21T14:37:00.000-07:002008-07-21T14:37:00.000-07:00we do have similar stories....you know what's even...we do have similar stories....you know what's even more strange?? we were going to name ours mason if it was a boy and masyn if it was a girl.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07453698056349189103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post-38829154902513775462008-07-21T11:45:00.000-07:002008-07-21T11:45:00.000-07:00Yikes! I can see why this situation would make yo...Yikes! I can see why this situation would make you uncomfortable. It is weird and creepy.Christyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00977781470147646616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post-53546921800090509252008-07-21T11:32:00.000-07:002008-07-21T11:32:00.000-07:00ha! i like angie's comment about her being a gran...ha! i like angie's comment about her being a grandma...she might just run away!<BR/><BR/>your thoughts are perfectly normal. my dad is almost fifty and has always had younger women. i don't really communicate with him, so it doesn't bother me much. i still hate it, though!Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07453698056349189103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post-30901444103211951532008-07-21T10:44:00.000-07:002008-07-21T10:44:00.000-07:00Wow...I also don't have any advice for you on this...Wow...I also don't have any advice for you on this one! Her statement about wanting to be the best of friends ever is either her attempt to really make your dad feel like she wants to accept his kids or her NAIVE side coming out because she is 23!!! Love works in mysterious ways, but honestly 23???? <BR/><BR/>I think all of your concerns are completely valid. They can't possibly have much in common, but who knows huh! I'm glad you brought up the pre-nup...I'm not a big fan of them in "normal" marriages, but you know what in this case it's necessary. Like you said what if she took half of what your dad had worked his whole life for...it's not like he can go back out and work again to earn that all back!<BR/><BR/>And the comment above mine about Gage having the youngest grandma ever...OH MY GOD! I didn't think it could get worse till I read that! YIKES!!! Ask her how she feels about being a GRANDMA at 23...maybe she will run in the other direction!angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07731393862211629079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post-90533800137049654022008-07-21T10:01:00.000-07:002008-07-21T10:01:00.000-07:00Gage is going to have the youngest grandma ever......Gage is going to have the youngest grandma ever...eeeks!Dana https://www.blogger.com/profile/07544717761454174350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post-44827963151651798182008-07-21T09:22:00.000-07:002008-07-21T09:22:00.000-07:00Ack! I don't blame you for having some reservation...Ack! I don't blame you for having some reservations. And I am sorry you are having to deal with this. What a situation. I do hope that you guys can be friends and that she does love him and have his best interests at heart. Keep an open mind and heart for her and get to know her. <BR/>And definitely try to talk him into the pre-nup and directives etc. important.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06936322585243370916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post-2003726152980995272008-07-21T08:19:00.000-07:002008-07-21T08:19:00.000-07:00Wow, I think your feelings are justified. You are ...Wow, I think your feelings are justified. You are worried about your dad.<BR/>My father is engaged to his girlfreind but they are close in age. I still have worries, especially about the medical issues but I am still his DPOA, but maybe she wouldn't call me right away.<BR/>It is nice though that he has someone to spend time with.<BR/>I hope that R's intentions are honest.Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08903593840515283971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post-82888482896632187832008-07-21T07:31:00.000-07:002008-07-21T07:31:00.000-07:00Oh, Lainey, OY. Okay. I'm gonna be 52 in a coup...Oh, Lainey, OY. Okay. I'm gonna be 52 in a couple of months, and I've been around the block a few times. How old is your Dad? Right now, I feel really bad for him. He must be so lonely. I know what it's like, since my husband died 7 years ago, but it's when we're at our most vulnerable that we have to be our most careful. Ya know? I am VERY HAPPY to hear that he has enough perspective to have a pre-nup. But I don't think he should be having the reason for the pre-nup, if ya know what I mean. Is there any way you can talk to him about this? Calmly, rationally, and keeping him, as a person rather than your Dad, in mind? There are some people that, while fine to hang out with for a time, should not become permanent fixtures. One needs to know the difference. At the very least, you must try to convince him to have a VERY LONG engagement. Oh. And best of friends? My ass. You need to find out all you can about her, because I think something is amiss. Not that your Dad isn't 100% lovable, because from what you've written, I think he sounds terrific. But this just doesn't add up to "forever" if ya know what I mean. DON'T let him mistake love for lust or whatever. And I know...yuck, gross...it's your Dad. But it's the facts, so...kim-dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11650811256788756378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post-81476498509298928112008-07-21T06:43:00.000-07:002008-07-21T06:43:00.000-07:00i already want to punch her. maybe she's all home...i already want to punch her. maybe she's all homely looking or something and then you will really believe she loves your dad. <BR/><BR/>ewwww<BR/><BR/>no<BR/><BR/>how did they even meet<BR/><BR/>not okaymisguidedmommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10512111894191254653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post-71564340245621942722008-07-20T21:17:00.000-07:002008-07-20T21:17:00.000-07:00Maybe she'll be great and be just like the . . . u...Maybe she'll be great and be just like the . . . um . . . uh . . . little sister you never had? OYE! I can totally understand how that would be a freak-out kind of thing. Good luck with it all and make sure to take care of yourself. Ugh.<BR/><BR/>*hugs*Burgh Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09123901504643963583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post-20736782823453447962008-07-20T17:06:00.000-07:002008-07-20T17:06:00.000-07:00Ok, I don't mean to sound judgemental, but that's ...Ok, I don't mean to sound judgemental, but that's just disgusting! I'm sure your dad is a lovely person, but COME ON!! I'm assuming he's what, 50 or so? I am 24 years old. The thought of being with someone my father's age makes me nauseated! <BR/><BR/>I can't imagine what you are going through. I hope that your dad makes some decisions that you can be comfortable with. Do you see him much? Sorry...too many questions!<BR/><BR/>I'll be thinking about you! Keep us posted!Elainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07320598423933936975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post-30476159950628094472008-07-20T17:02:00.000-07:002008-07-20T17:02:00.000-07:00it's a good thing you are such a avid blogger, so ...it's a good thing you are such a avid blogger, so that you can get all this stuff off your chest. keep doin' it. and let me know if you need advice...my grandfather did the same exact thing so i know how you feel....kind of.<BR/><BR/>hang in there. m.~melinda~https://www.blogger.com/profile/03470925428011035943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post-12537226724472504702008-07-20T16:31:00.000-07:002008-07-20T16:31:00.000-07:00I could not start to understand what you are deali...I could not start to understand what you are dealing with - it just seems so stressful...I doubt you will ever be "best of friends" with this girl...but try to have an open mind...and at the same time have your father address your issues. You have every right to be fearful...good luck. HUGS and SUPPORTLaurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08122365458052947125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post-73184150169803636142008-07-20T14:53:00.000-07:002008-07-20T14:53:00.000-07:00I have no advice either but I understand where you...I have no advice either but I understand where you are coming from. It is weird and I would question her motives too. <BR/><BR/>But then again, maybe she really does love him.Zephrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04036187147036400140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post-91078919356982669782008-07-20T14:31:00.000-07:002008-07-20T14:31:00.000-07:00WOW! I'm sorry you have to go through this but I h...WOW! <BR/><BR/>I'm sorry you have to go through this but I have to say that everything you say you feel, I'd feel too. You are not a bad person because of it. I think you should make your feelings known to your father rationally and in a calm voice. Don't refer to her as anything other than sweetness and light however hard that may be. Pre-nup, advance directives, all very good things that you should talk about with him. <BR/><BR/>23? 23? They just don't have anything in common.... Sorry, I know that is an afterthought but, *shudder*... I feel bad for you!shoeaddicthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06540488940347979388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post-20772644289754536312008-07-20T14:25:00.000-07:002008-07-20T14:25:00.000-07:00Well, I know how hard this has been for you. I ca...Well, I know how hard this has been for you. I can't imagine...I just can't. My dad is married to a hooker and that's another story for another day but I just would completely feel the same way you do about it all. From everything you have told me I would question motives too because you didn't even mention about where she currently lives. Anyway, I hope that this doesn't stress you out too much. Take a deep breath. Advance directives...another wise decision...talk him into that one!!!Hester 5https://www.blogger.com/profile/09731447812806451412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post-4475442247856616232008-07-20T13:36:00.000-07:002008-07-20T13:36:00.000-07:00My first thought was, "Wow, and will they consider...My first thought was, "Wow, and will they consider having children?" Girl, you could have some siblings from this - is your dad ready to be a dad to little kids again - for a long, long time? Or, is she willing to not have children? I dunno - there's no way my dad would EVER consider having more children - not at his age, not for anyone.<BR/><BR/>Wow, how weird to think Gage could conceivably have an aunt or uncle (or several) that are YOUNGER than him. Wow.Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14858511221598789469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post-13975072314435470672008-07-20T13:29:00.000-07:002008-07-20T13:29:00.000-07:00I don't think you and this "girl" will ever be "th...I don't think you and this "girl" will ever be "the best of friends" and I think it's natural (and right) for you to question her motives.<BR/>Yes, it's wonderful that he is loved (true love??) but even better that he agrees a pre-nup is in order.<BR/>Best of luck with this situation.<BR/>Everything you say - and are thinking - makes perfect sense to me.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14110235078325434919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994311.post-90166215179849101592008-07-20T10:58:00.000-07:002008-07-20T10:58:00.000-07:00Ok, so when I saw big announcement that it not wha...Ok, so when I saw big announcement that it not what I was thinking. Also, I have no advice. None. Except for everything you have said seems perfectly reasonable to me. I think you should talk about your concerns with your Dad. Maybe not about her intentions, but the other stuff which certainly concerns you. And he said he thought a pre-nup was a good idea . . . that’s got to be good news right?lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00971981591752511165noreply@blogger.com